5 Ways to Finding Some Calm Right Now

Want to feel more calm amid the chaos but feel so overwhelmed you don’t know where to start?

Now is a great time to gently turn away from the uncertainty, and lovingly toward your inner calm. I totally get how consuming the situation is, with so many fears around our loved ones possibly getting unwell, possible loss of income, isolation, the economy and that’s all before we even address homeschooling – there is a LOT going on right now and I want to acknowledge the depth of fear that is being experienced; its immense.

No one has control over this situation but we do have control over how we react to it. Now is the time to actively show yourself some love and take steps to finding your calm; not only for you, but to light the way for your kids and those around you.

Here are 5 ways to regain some inner peace –

EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique – This is an energy psychology method that rapidly releases the emotional impact of stressful or traumatic life events from the body-mind system. If you already experienced anxiety prior to this current pandemic, it’s likely this has become an incredibly tough time to navigate your emotions. Past traumas can be triggered by this rapidly escalating time, so having a tool to get relief from intrusive emotions is invaluable. It’s super easy to do and has instant results. To learn the basics and how to use EFT for anxiety click here to go to my free training.

Wim Hof Breathing Technique – This right here has been another game-changer in cutting through an unwanted state of mind; the instant benefits are mind-blowing. The health benefits are also amazing as it achieves alkalinity in the blood, making us less susceptible to getting sick! Yes, it might seem a little crazy when you start, but I encourage you to give the whole thing a go, the ‘buzz’ afterwards is TOTALLY worth it!

For Wim Hof’s ‘breathing tutorial’ click here. To jump straight to the 11 min ‘guided breathing’ click here. (This man is fascinating, he’s also known as ‘The Ice Man’, look him up on Youtube!)

Meditation – An oldie but a goodie! Quietening the mind brings real peace to our soul. Over the years I have dabbled in meditation, mainly practising mindfulness. Last year I became intrigued about the benefits of daily meditation practice, so I embarked on a new meditation journey. I was introduced to an excellent free app called ‘1 Giant Mind’ where you can follow the easy 12 step guide. He starts teaching just a few mins per day, its easy to get into and is by far the best explanation of how to meditate I’ve come across.

If you’re feeling quite stressed I highly recommend using EFT or Wim Hof method first to clear the emotion, because it can be difficult to quieten a mind that is busy stressing.

Journaling – If you were like me and had a diary as a teenager then you will most likely remember the pouring out of the youthful soul onto paper, dissecting and spilling the beans on every inch of your life. Well, guess what, that was a fabulous skill back then that you can integrate back into your wellbeing rituals. Getting your thoughts out onto paper can help us gain real perspective on how we feel about certain things and it can be a huge release too. It might not sound that profound, but we process our thoughts differently when we write them down.

A great place to start, if you’re feeling a bit stuck, is with the gratitude and appreciation you feel in your life right now. I hear you, in such difficult times it can be hard to see things to be grateful for, but look closely, they’re there. You can gush on everything. Gratitude for family, friends, pets, car, home, food, electricity, internet, water, and right down to the smaller things like a comfy bed or your toothbrush (imagine how awful your breath would be without a toothbrush!). Gratitude helps us experience more positive emotions such as optimism, enthusiasm, love, joy, and happiness; list how many things you can find to appreciate right now and really revel in that delicious feeling. This is such a great way to raise your vibes too!

Nature – A way of restoring and reconnecting to our feminine energy is to enjoy nature. Feel the sun on your skin or blow the cobwebs out in the blustery wind; immerse yourself in your favourite place. Smell the ocean, listen to the birds, look at the vista, touch the trees; ground yourself and re-energise from our beautiful mother earth. If you are unable to get to any nature places, simply sitting on the grass in your back yard or pulling weeds out of the garden work a treat; notice the natural beauty close up.

Connect – With self-isolation in place staying connected is super important. One of my best recommendations here is using the free ‘video calling’ platform ‘Zoom’. All you need to do is share the zoom room link with friends, family or colleagues and meet there at a certain time. Its really user friendly, reliable and the coolest way to get a group of you together, to see each other and catch up – boom! Click here for the link to open your zoom account. For a YouTube tutorial on how to use it for beginners click here.

I’m sending lots of loving vibes out to you all. Stay safe, protect yourselves and those around you and together we will rise from this unreal situation. Prioritise your self care and finding your calm, because not only will everything else become easier to tackle, that stuff is contagious too!!

Expecting to Lose – Case Study

Recently a client came to me with a desire to get her business idea off the ground but has noticed her habits of never quite getting off the starting blocks and it had been happening for years and with many different business ideas. She believes in her business idea and her ability, yet she keeps finding blocks and feels like a failure.

My client wanted to uncover what it is that’s stopping her, what her subconscious block is so she can get some momentum within her new business.

We followed the energy she felt of her failure and she found herself in a memory of a school running race. She was 7yrs old, and hated running; she always came last and she knew today was going to be no different. She was feeling sad and fearful of being laughed at. She had nobody there to cheer her on; she believed her parents were too ashamed to watch her come last, so they didn’t come at all. She felt like a failure, knowing before she even started that she was going to come last.

My client could clearly see the connection this memory had to how she was living her life now; not feeling good enough and just ‘waiting’ to come last – No fight in her. So, boy did we change that.

First, using EFT, we tapped away all the sadness and fear of humiliation she was feeling, then we taught this little 7yr old girl a fun trick about how powerful our minds are when we tell them something; the ‘go 25% further’ trick. It’s so simple – Standing, with your right arm straight out in front of you, pointing your finger, keeping your arm out you turn around ‘as far as you can’ and take note of what you are now pointing at.  Then return to the front, same again, but this time you tell yourself, that you will go 25% further than you did last time; see the results for yourself! It’s amazing! And she LOVED it. She understood the idea that if she told herself she could run faster, her body will respond.

She wanted her family there to support her, reminding her that she has it in her to go the distance so we added them into this new memory. Standing in the side-lines were Mum, Dad, brothers and Grandparents all shouting her name with great excitement.

She ran that race and felt her power as her legs ran faster and faster. She wasn’t last! In fact, she came 2nd! Her elation was unmistakable. She showed herself how powerful her mind was!

We reimprinted this memory with all the feelings of success, joy, love, support, and empowerment. Doing this process in the Matrix transforms that memory in your subconscious, making it more powerful than if you were to simply talk this over as an idea. It becomes part of you.

My client has since found traction in her business, feeling empowered by her transformed memory. Her brain is amazing and will do what she tells it to. And in the moments when doubt creeps in she remembers and practises the joy of that memory.

“It’s like this tool has pulled the thread that was holding me back, and the more I remember this new memory, the further I pull the thread and the more unravelled my old belief is. I know I can win at whatever I put my mind to! Thank you for helping me see this, it’s making such a difference in how I’m working in my business” – Rachel

‘This’ is emotional freedom; empowerment of the mind through knowledge and nurturing.

To Life’s Satisfactions

I’m beautiful, bright, curvy, emotional, full of love; I’m all woman. I have birthed two children and learnt some of my biggest lessons from being a mother. I can make a house, a caravan, even a tent, a home. I’m sure I talk more than the said 20,000 words, of your average woman, spoken per day – what else can I say, it’s one of my gifts. I’m creative, love to dance and enjoy singing my lungs out (in the comfort of my car lol). I get hormonal, have saggy boobs, and stretch marks, but this privelege comes from having grown and fed two humans. I am grateful. I am a woman who acknowledges her fears, and does it anyway (well most of the time). A woman with depth, strength and heart. I’m a wife, a daughter, an Aunty, a friend; a fellow female human.

I have led a pretty colourful life. A life I am so proud to say has been full to the brim with experiences. There have been crazy times, out of this world times, desperate times, loving times, petrifying times, eye-opening times and hilarious times. I have gained an amazing amount of perspective and know myself inside and out.

I have fought, I have won and I have lost. I’ve failed as a daughter, a friend, a wife, a mother but the most hurtful one is how I’ve failed myself time and time again learning some of my colourful lessons. 15yrs ago I was an addict who went back for more, even knowing the after effects would be hurtful and ugly. I had an untreated mental illness and struggled to get any emotional traction in life. 

My journey has led me along a beautiful path. I have risen and succeeded, as a daughter, a friend, a wife and a mother. But the most amazingly ‘satisfying’ success has been for myself, learning some more of my wonderful colourful lessons! I’ve learnt how to turn my demon’s into loving strengths and how to set my heart and mind free. 

Becoming an EFT and Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner is one of my proudest achievements as it’s given me the skills to help guide others along thier personal journey’s to emotional freedom. 

To life’s satisfactions xo

Her Beautiful Bubble of Significance – Case Study

There is nothing quite like guiding a person towards emotional freedom, but it’s the BEST when within two weeks the client gives you feedback on how amazing they feel and how it has impacted their life!

Recently my client came to me feeing like no one sees her. She felt like it didn’t matter what she did for the world and her people in it, she was not appreciated, and this caused her to feel a heavy sadness. She gave so much of herself to everyone, trying to be the person they all needed and the heavy darkness of sadness in her chest would not release.

My client’s goal was to lift this sadness. She wanted to feel significant and be seen by those she gave her time to.

When I guide a person into the matrix, we often follow a feeling and where that energy is sitting in the body. In this case she was already aware of the heavy feeling in her chest. The energy of this feeling connects with one or more memories in her subconscious where she had also felt this same feeling, and this is where we go in and transform the memory into one of satisfaction. Knowing this work the way I do; I knew that she would find relief from that anxiety and gain a feeling of more significance once we tapped into memories where her belief had been originally created.

We discovered a couple of memories from around the age of four where she was hiding, feeling very alone and outcast from her immediate family. She felt like the odd one out. She knew she was loved, however conditionally and not understood.

There are many ways to transform memories, but we always start with connecting into the feeling of your younger self in the memory and how she is feeling and using EFT (tapping) we release the negative emotions. Once this is done, we figure out the best way to create more emotional freedom. The relief from those emotions is already fabulous but we take this further.

For my client in this session, she had identified that she felt insignificant, so we want to work toward feeling the opposite of this. “What would make you feel more significant?” Being seen by Mum and Dad. After doing some work with Mum and Dad in this there was a small amount of relief from their noticing her but not a big shift. We took a different approach.

I got her to think of a safe place she could create that would become her new place of significance. She came up with this giant soft bubble, the size of a house. Inside it was a calm dusty pink colour and it had her favourite things in there. A native fern garden surrounding the softest, comfiest couch that she could snuggle down into. She added the essence of her old beloved old dog and cat. She had the masculine love of her Grandfather swirling around with the aroma of the beach, all holding a beautiful space for her to start painting the walls in all the significance she is. She had sprawling pictures of her special people who she is significant to, and all the people who have made her feel significant over her life; friends, family, teachers, therapists, loves, even random strangers who made an impact; all to reminder how of these moments in time.

She had a huge screen up with a rolling film of all the wonderful snippets of her life where she had shown ‘herself’ how significant she was.

  • Using healthy and unhealthy coping strategies to survive (this is important to recognise all those strategies because they got you here to today)
  • Not following the crowd taking drugs, and focusing on her schoolwork during high school
  • Working hard toward her career path
  • Ending a relationship because she knew long term it wasn’t how she wanted to live her life and ultimately would be unhappy, as hard as it was at the time
  • Travelling the world to the beat of her own drum
  • Walking away from friendships that she was no longer aligned with
  • Asking for help when she was experiencing severe mental illness, and working hard to recover and find her balance once again
  • Her creations
  • Her way of exercising for fun, loving moving her body
  • Being a fabulous mother
  • Showing herself how she can overcome fears and be triumphant
  • Her wins, and SO MUCH MORE

She created a place she could visit at any time, especially when triggered into feeling insignificant, where she can feel ALL the significance that she is. See ALL the significance she has shown herself, and how and why she is significant to others in her life. Her beautiful dome full of ALL that she is and how she has shown up for herself over her life.

Doing this process in the matrix makes this a powerful tool for reconnecting with our inner self. My client now has a place where she feels the enormity of her significance, and whether others see it or not in everyday life, becomes completely insignificant. She has learnt others can’t make her feel anywhere near as significant as she can make herself feel.

“Thank you so much Bex, feeling all this significance has freed me from having recurring thoughts of ‘not being thought of by this person or that’. I’m not seeking that feeling from others, especially my husband, as I can now feel how amazing I am whenever I re-enter my beautiful dome you helped me create. I’m so grateful and can’t believe how quickly this has impacted my life.” – Jen

‘This’ is emotional freedom; empowerment through self-love and significance.